Struggling...
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Erika
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Im with ya jess.......I have the clothes I wore when we lt piggy go...they smell like him..I miss the smell so much, the oldman breath, the old man everything, his fog horn bark, his following me around, but most of all I miss his eyes , they always watched me. Its been almost 6 weeks and I still cry everyday, I carry his fur in my purse, I can feel him and smell him,I sing and talk to his memory. It helps. let the grief take its course, we smile threw the tears now. Too many hearts dogs leaving us but atleast we have each other on here. Hugs and angel wings around your heart Jess. We all will get threw this together
NewfLove
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Jess, we all do understand. There are way too many "firsts" when you lose your beloved Newf. And, you have to go through each one of them, sadly. What happened to us when our 11-1/2 yo Newf died eight years ago... A Great Pyr rescue group in another state called me unexpectedly (I had filled out an online form requesting info about litters), saying there was a GP puppy at our local shelter. I told them I lost my Newf nine days earlier and not even gotten out of bed and couldn't consider it. They called again the next day. I decided to just go look - at this little white fluff ball who was scared to death and just wanted a home. The next morning, we took him home and he helped to fill the emptiness and quiet left by my sweet girl, Allie. It did not take away the pain, but I promise you it made me feel like I was going to survive. He is eight years old and we still think of him as our angel. Just an idea...
2Paws
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I thought my heart was ripped out permenantly when I had to say goodbye to Benson....way too young and very sudden. I refused to vacumn for a week because I wanted his fur to remain in the house. I kept his medicine in the cupboard. I couldn't throw it away for almost a year.
I started putting his special things in a tote container that I got just for him. I put his special toys in there, his collars and leashes, his water training bumper, his awards, cards, all the special momentos we collected through the 5 1/2 years he was with me. It's all there and when I'm feeling particulary strong, I will lovingly go through them with tears and touch them and remember.......
Everybody grieves differently but everybody grieves and we are all here for you Jess whenever you want to "talk".
2newfs4now
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Leska said it so well...
Erika
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Great story............
mulenag
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Jess, I understand your pain. When we lost Ebony we were devastated. We were without a Newf for a month before Phoebe came home and that was the longest, hardest month of my life. Ross grieved just as hard as we did and the puppy boy that is normally my happy bouncy boy was so down and his grief was heartbreaking for me to see as well. Phoebe filled a huge hole in our hearts and life and I hope in time you can find something to comfort you as well. It takes differing amounts of time for everyone and I can tell you I still cry often over the loss of Ebony. She has been gone 3 months now and I have a feeling it will be a long time before I can smile more than cry over her. Losing a Newf is difficult, but it is much easier when you can come to places like NN and discuss your grief with others who understand. Again, I am so sorry.
Bojie
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Jess, I'm sobbing here for you. Leska couldn't have said it better. After my dad passed away, he came to me in my dreams over the next several weeks/ months. The last very vivid dream I had of him, he was dancing, wearing a tuxedo smiling and laughing. I believe our loved ones who pass come see us when we can let them in, in our sleep. Your NN family is here for you. Big hugs Jess.
Emma & Nigel's Mom
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Jess what you wrote brought me to tears, and then to read the replies kept them flowing. You are so right, we too often take all the floogers and mess for granted, all the mess and work is worth the love we get in return. Gabe is watching over you, treasure your dreams, treasure your memories, and know that he will never be forgotten.
Angela
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Gabe is watching over you, talk to him, tell him how much you and Murphy love and miss him. he can never be replaced but one day you may find another special Newf to share your life with, it may take a long time.
Make a memory box or write down all about Gabe and his antics and how you both got through those hard times, that may help you.
Big hugs to you and Murphy from me.
Make a memory box or write down all about Gabe and his antics and how you both got through those hard times, that may help you.
Big hugs to you and Murphy from me.
Henrys Mom
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Cherish the memories. When Henry passed away in December I thought my heart would never mend. I had lost other dogs but never a Newfie. The huge void in our house was horrible. I still cry because I miss him. But I also smile when I think of all the great things he brought to our family. Now we have Mason and he is a puppy that must think his other name is Henry!! We call him that so many times!!! We are enjoying the similarities and differences and he gives me the Newfie hugs and hair and drool we were missing! Hugs to you Jess!!
It took many years for me to get over the passing of my first dog (who was much like a nanny to me) and I can still get teary-eyed when I think about her sometimes. I hope things get better for you.
champagnebrkfst
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I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to tell you how sad it makes me to read some of these threads about the recent losses of our beloved Newfs. My sincere condolences to all that have lost their companions. I leave you with this beautiful quote that sums it all up for me.
"He is my other eyes that can see above the clouds; my other ears that hear above the winds. He is the part of me that can reach out into the sea. He has told me a thousand times over that I am his reason for being; by the way he rests against my leg; by the way he thumps his tail at my smallest smile; by the way he shows his hurt when I leave without taking him. (I think it makes him sick with worry when he is not along to care for me.) When I am wrong, he is delighted to forgive. When I am angry, he clowns to make me smile. When I am happy, he is joy
"He is my other eyes that can see above the clouds; my other ears that hear above the winds. He is the part of me that can reach out into the sea. He has told me a thousand times over that I am his reason for being; by the way he rests against my leg; by the way he thumps his tail at my smallest smile; by the way he shows his hurt when I leave without taking him. (I think it makes him sick with worry when he is not along to care for me.) When I am wrong, he is delighted to forgive. When I am angry, he clowns to make me smile. When I am happy, he is joy
unbounded. When I am a fool, he ignores it. When I succeed, he brags. Without him, I am only another man. With him, I am all-powerful. He is loyalty itself. He has taught me the meaning of devotion. With him, I know a secret comfort and a private peace. He has brought me understanding where before I was ignorant. His head on my knee can heal my human hurts. His presence by my side is protection against my fears of dark and unknown things. He has promised to wait for me... whenever... wherever - in case I need him. And I expect I will - as I always have. He is just my dog."
(Gene Hill)
luvxl k 9
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I had this same problem with my horse I'd had for 16 years, Tai. For 3 years I couldn't go out to the barn and clean stalls without becoming hysterical, so needless to say all my joy for our other horses died with him. Then one day I was looking at trailers (camping) to see what they were going for so I could put ours in that paper to sell it. Next to the campers was the farmers market and I noticed an ad I couldn't get out of my head for a 6 year old half/arab gelding. No working horse trailer, so no way to get him home even if I did get him right? Wrong, turned out he was a mile away through the fields. Moonie now greets me every morning with a whiney and won't go out until I give him his hug and kiss. I still miss Tai but I can clean stalls and enjoy the horses again. Did Tai get tired of seeing his Mama mourn, I'm sure of it, so he sent me Moonie.
Those we love so much never leave us, they just live on the other side of a sheer curtain and make their presence known when we need them so much.
My grandson Cody and I on Moonie, notice my face.
Those we love so much never leave us, they just live on the other side of a sheer curtain and make their presence known when we need them so much.
My grandson Cody and I on Moonie, notice my face.
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victoria1140
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cherish your dreams and your memories and let the grief take its course. For those who dont understand smile at them and leave them to their lifes for we all know they arent just a dog or just a newf they are our furkids and we love them sometimes more than our real children.
I still miss all mine that have passed and dread the day when the next one goes to the bridge but I love them while they are here and thats all most of us can do.
Have you thought about talking to a bereavement counsellor to help
I still miss all mine that have passed and dread the day when the next one goes to the bridge but I love them while they are here and thats all most of us can do.
Have you thought about talking to a bereavement counsellor to help
champagnebrkfst
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Thank you Terri. I thought it was a perfect description of this truly one of a kind dog.
Newfs Forever
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Jess,
So many beautiful words written here. I wish I could be so eloquent.
Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
So many beautiful words written here. I wish I could be so eloquent.
Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.