Jess, I know those moments of horrendous loss creep up on you, they seem to come out of nowhere and change your mood entirely- that pain you feel in the pit of your stomach and you just can't believe that all of this has happened, it's like a very bad dream.
I've decided that whenever those moments strike, I'll just to go with it, then try to balance the sadness with some happy memories. It does help somewhat. :hugs: :hugs: