Kind of stinks...

courtney77

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So, I found out a few months ago that one of my friends from high school that now lives in CO has a Newfie. She saw all my pics of Steely on Facebook and pointed out that she has a Newfie too. I was so excited and told her all about NN and that she should join this forum and she never responded to that. I saw a status update from her today that said her dog had peed on her new bed and did anyone have any suggestions for talking her husband into finally parting with his dog.
I asked her if it was her Newf and she said yes and that she knows how much I love my newfie, but that she did not love hers. That made me so sad that she felt that way. :(
She said he is the sweetest dog she has ever had but that he is just way to much trouble. I sent her a PM that if she and her husband were going to try and re-home their dog to let me know and maybe I could get her in touch with some NN folks near her that would be willing to help out as most people on this forum always are. Anyway, she hasn't responded to that.
I hate that she feels that way, but I know not every breed is meant for every person. I'll keep ya'll posted if she ever messages me back.
 
KodysGrandma

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That is very sad. Yes, not every breed is for every one but they need to do the best possible job of finding the dog a good home. Keep after her (gently I'm sure you want to maintain the friendship).
 
Erika

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its so sad that she feels like that..........maybe the newf peed on the bed because he senses her emotions.Oh I hope this all works out .
 
courtney77

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That's kind of what I thought too, Erika. I really hope she lets me try to help if they do decide to give him up. It sounds like he's her husband's dog & that her husband doesn't want to part with him. I don't blame him. I wouldn't either. But I think in order to be a Newfie house, everyone needs to be on board.
 
4ondafloor

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Hi Courtney.
Please continue to try. Its a very delicate thing you are doing but if know you from everything I've read and seen, you will find a way. Be non judgemental yet persistent.
Rescue is available in your area as you know. We can put you in touch with the folks that can help.
They have to WANT to rehome the Newf first. Sounds like both are not on board yet.
Ugh...this would be worrying me to pieces. Good luck.
 
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courtney77

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Pae and Syd said:
Hi Courtney.
Please continue to try. Its a very delicate thing you are doing but if I know you from everything I read and seen, you will find a way. Be non judgemental yet persistent.
Rescue is available in your area as you know. We can put you in touch with the folks that can help.
They have to WANT to rehome the Newf first. Sounds like both are not on board yet.
Ugh...this would be worrying me to pieces. Good luck.
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It does worry me. I don't like to think of this dog being in a home where he is not loved by everyone.
To sum it up, what I said in my message to her was that I was sorry that she was having such a difficult time with him and that if she & her husband actually decided to re-home him that I am active on NN and that I could put her in touch with people who would be so happy to help and to find him an excellent home. I told her that I didn't mean to pry but that I really would like to help if that's what it came down to.
So, I hope she responds. I was just talking to my mom about it and we were both a little appalled at my friend's choice of phrasing when she said, "I know you love your Newfy but I don't love mine". Ouch. That really stings. I told her what I posted earlier about 100% of the household needing to be on board with a breed like the Newfoundland. My mom begged to differ saying that she thinks 100% of a household needs to be on board with any breed of dog. Good point, Mom.
I can't imagine not completely loving and adoring my Steely and believe me, she's got plenty of shenanigans that should push me over the edge.
Please keep my friend's dog in your prayers and that they do what is best for him. His name is Happy.
 
Ursa

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You're doing the right thing Courtney. Fingers crossed that she'll take you up on your offer of help.
 
Brody the Newf

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courtney77 said:
It does worry me. I don't like to think of this dog being in a home where he is not loved by everyone.
To sum it up, what I said in my message to her was that I was sorry that she was having such a difficult time with him and that if she & her husband actually decided to re-home him that I am active on NN and that I could put her in touch with people who would be so happy to help and to find him an excellent home. I told her that I didn't mean to pry but that I really would like to help if that's what it came down to.
So, I hope she responds. I was just talking to my mom about it and we were both a little appalled at my friend's choice of phrasing when she said, "I know you love your Newfy but I don't love mine". Ouch. That really stings. I told her what I posted earlier about 100% of the household needing to be on board with a breed like the Newfoundland. My mom begged to differ saying that she thinks 100% of a household needs to be on board with any breed of dog. Good point, Mom.
I can't imagine not completely loving and adoring my Steely and believe me, she's got plenty of shenanigans that should push me over the edge.
Please keep my friend's dog in your prayers and that they do what is best for him. His name is Happy.
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Is the Newfie a pup? I remember after a rough patch breaking down crying and admitting that I didn't think I could deal with Brody anymore and it was time to rehome him. The feeling passed but returned a few times. Thankfully, I had NN to turn to.

So don't be too hard on your friend. I love Brody to pieces but he hasn't always been an easy dog to love.
 
Wayne A

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Main concern is dog gets a better home if she doesn't want it someone will love it.
Can't make her want it or love it.
 
courtney77

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Brody the Newf said:
Is the Newfie a pup? I remember after a rough patch breaking down crying and admitting that I didn't think I could deal with Brody anymore and it was time to rehome him. The feeling passed but returned a few times. Thankfully, I had NN to turn to.

So don't be too hard on your friend. I love Brody to pieces but he hasn't always been an easy dog to love.
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No, he's not a puppy. They've had him for a few years, I believe.
And I haven't been hard on her at all. In our correspondence I've only said that if they do decide to re-home him that I would be happy to help her get in touch with some folks that can make sure he goes to a great home.

That being said, she messaged me back that her husband loves the dog and is set on keeping him and that if it ever came down to him needing a new home, she would be sure to contact me.
Also, she knows all about Newfoundland rescue and would never just turn him in to a shelter or anything like that.
 
Lori

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Maybe if they joined NN, it would help hearing everyone else's stories/problems/advice/etc. They wouldn't have to post much if they wanted, just read up. We all know how helpful NN can be!
 
courtney77

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Lori said:
Maybe if they joined NN, it would help hearing everyone else's stories/problems/advice/etc. They wouldn't have to post much if they wanted, just read up. We all know how helpful NN can be!
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Oh Lord, I need to learn how to delete this thread if they do! ;)

I told her about NN several months ago and she had no response. Hopefully her heart will warm to him. She has a picture of him and her little boy on her facebook page. They take him hiking with them all the time and have a backpack for him to carry stuff.
 
drulzelot

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Also, if she bought from a breeder, she should contact the breeder before she contacts anyone else if she changes her mind and wants to rehome him. She could also have been saying it but not meaning it, kind of like how we want to snatch our kids baldheaded, but not really, really mean it (I mean, what would we do with the scalps?).
 
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How wonderful that Courtney's an attentive and caring resource in case it comes to rehoming!

This sort of situation gets me wondering about peoples' processes of selecting a breed and choosing where to get a dog. Especially in families where the decision-maker and the primary caretaker aren't in sync about the best match. Maybe I'm reading way too much into it, and I'll admit I smirked a little about Happy's way of making a statement.

drulzelot said:
what would we do with the scalps?).
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:LMAO:
 
SunnyD

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I think Happy has a perfect name for a Newf!

Way to go Courtney, perhaps she will turn to you more if she has more problems and with some help, will learn to love him.
 
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