Prayers for my mom

suzsmile

suzsmile

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It has been a very long week for us. My son was married last Saturday and then early Monday morning, my 94 year old mother, who has dementia, was having breathing difficulties and was going to be transported to the hospital nearer to us. Within 5 minutes, we were called back and told that she was being taken to the hospital closer to her nursing home, because they didn't think that she could make it to first hospital. She was admitted and after 2 days, we were told that she had several small spots of pneumonia. She seems to physically be improving, but just sits in the chair and really doesn't seem interested in our visits. The one nurse that actually talked to us said that she felt that Mom might be giving up. If she remains in the same condition, the doctor will have her moved back to the nursing home on Monday. I am so exhausted and so sad to see my once vibrant and active mother this way. I just don't know how to feel.
 
Tricia2

Tricia2

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We have many feelings when faced with a parent's declining health and loss of interest as their world shrinks. All of these feelings are appropriate and talking about them helps you through this transition. Prayers for you at this difficult time.
 
KodysGrandma

KodysGrandma

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It's tough, there is just no other way to put it. And they do sometimes give up. When my Mother was headed that way I talked to a psychologist about it and he told me I must not feel guilty in any way. When they choose to quit there is no way to alter that and you ae not responsible for it. With my Mother she had simply decided she had been without my Father long enough and that was it. Look after her and give her as much love as you can, the rest is out of your hands.
 
2newffamily

2newffamily

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I can appreciate the rough time you're having just now. When we built our house, we moved 4 1/2 hours away from my parents instead of 20 minutes. It was only a little over a year ago that I finally convinced them to sell the house and move closer to me so I could take care of them. They are in their mid 80's and their health is failing which makes me even more grateful to have this time with them. At 94, your Mom has had a long life and hopefully a good one. When our parents finally leave us, it is something over which we have no control. It is a sad time and very often a very difficult time. All you can do is take one day at a time. What will be will be so try not to stress too much over it.
 
Bojie

Bojie

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Oh Suzanne, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I hope she can get back to her familiar surroundings soon, that will help get her to return to herself a bit more. Any change in environment can cause dementia to progress further. It must be very scary for her, and you right now. You're in my thoughts:hugs:
 
ina/puusty

ina/puusty

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This may be..what one can call..an easing-away..a going to the inside and memory time. We all approach it..in our own time..and way. Celebrate all that was wonderful in the family life that you knew..and simply allow her progress ..Forward..to continue..knowing she is warm and secure..knowing no fear, feeling a quietude..around her. hugs, ina n HB n Kesa
 
suzsmile

suzsmile

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Mom is back in the facility where she was living. They can do for her what the hospital was doing. I visited her this afternoon, after the nurses bathed her, washed her hair, and got her back in her own bed. She is exhausted. They told me that they will have a good idea about how things are going to go in a few days.
I learned a little more about the night she became ill. She was fine at 1 AM and then was very ill and in respitory distress an hour later. The nurses told me that for someone to get that ill that fast, there has to be an underlying breakdown. Time will tell. At least my son gets back from his honeymoon tonight, so he can see her tomorrow. My daughter was here for my son's wedding, so she visited my mom several times in the hospital.
 
ina/puusty

ina/puusty

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Yes..the familier surroundings..do impart a greater calmness..when transioning. That is good news, ina n HB n Kesa
 
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