Gone, but not Forgotten

[Richie]

So, we bought a new TV, wonderful, right? Well, I'm torn. I keep looking at the old outgoing TV and thinking "but this is the one that Oso used to watch". It even has his nose prints on it when he would charge and poke the screen when he saw something he didn't approve of.

I even caught myself thinking "Oh, we shouldn't change anything, everything should be exactly the same for when he comes home".

Oh, please, Lord. This too shall pass, right?

Joann

 

[Rhonda]

Hugs, I know exactly how you feel. Heck, I haven't even been able to change my avatar here on NN, just doesn't seem right. :-(

 

[Jeannie]

Look at my avatar. Panda's been gone since 11/2008 and I cannot bring myself to change it.

 

[Angela]

I understand completely.

 

[DAWNMERIE]

It's just so hard....

 

[lacey9875]

I have a Kong on my front window ledge that my daughter refuses to let me move. It was our labs, she liked to chew on it in the front yard. It'll be three years in September. Sometimes I think things like that are comforting. :hugs:

 

[noblenewf]

I understand too. Sending you a hug. Keep the old TV as long as you need to. I haven't even vacuumed up Gabe's tumbleweeds yet...

 

[Angela]

Dudley died 2 1/2 yrs ago, his big favourite ball is still under the bush where he left it.
No one touches it, it just stays there.
Leave the TV till you're ready.

 

[newfx's2]

Don't feel you need to rush into changing anything. Like others here, my avatar is of Athena as a puppy w/ Poseidon. When Aurora came along, I meant to get a picture of the three of them but was too busy caught up in Athena's therapy. Now that she's gone, I can't bring myself to take that picture of her down.

 

[AngusMcDubhsMom]

I can't take Maneen's avatar down either. He left me one year ago today, a half hour ago....and I miss him terribly still. Some of his toys are still where he left them too, under the picnic table. You're not alone.

 

[BoundlessNewfs]

Yes, it will pass. I think. At least it's supposed to get easier to move forward without them. That's what I keep being told. So far, not working here.

I just washed the floors, and removed the "nose print art" from the windows, and cried the whole time. Every bit that I clean, I am removing traces of Lucy. I understand completely what you're feeling.

 

[R Taft]

Abbey passed away six years ago.We still have her special teddy on a shelf.......Zacky three years ago and we still have "Alf" from Melmac, his favorite, next to Teddy. And Lobo, who passed away in 1985...I still have her special rock (she used to roll it everywhere) to hold one of our doors open. I think we will aways miss them and keep their memories as close as we can..........

 

[SheilaT]

Keep the tv as long as you need......my King Dog, an English Mastiff, passed 5 years ago and I will never put another dog bed in his "spot". Ever.

 

[Newfs Forever]

Yep, I agree with all of the above.

 

[Erika]

My Glory passed in )7 I still have the last rose she smelled from her rose bush in my freezer. Piggyluv passed this yr 4-26.....I have retired his brush that still has his fur in it. We all understand. We just got new furniture after piggs left couldnt do it before , he loved his old couch. I kept 1 cushion from the couch. Weird how we do ceremonial thinghs to comfort us. But if it works do it I say. Hugs to you as you miss your love, Im sure angel wings are still wrapped around your heart

 

[mulenag]

(((hugs))) I too keep hearing that it will get better...*sigh* I hope for all of us it does. I was the same way when washing Ebony's bib and her food dish. Vacuuming the SUV was very difficult. And I feel bad for not letting Phoebe have my avatar on here, but I just can't do it yet. We understand why that TV holds a special place for you.

 

[Garden_girl]

I have Nellie's great big stuffed pillow, she used to lay her head on it every night when she went to bed. I picked it up last night, and hugged it, it smells just like Nellie, no way will I ever give that pillow up and I wont wash it either. Her food bowl is still on my counter top with the other food bowls and her collar still hangs in the closet. I need these things around me right now. Joann, surround yourself with Oso's things, it will bring you comfort. :hugs:

 

[KodysGrandma]

I'm still Kodys Grandma and Kody died Jan 14, 2007. I still have collars and toys from all the others. My Paladin (Lab heart dog of 15 years) left a rubber ball with a hole in it. That's the inhouse piggy bank. And when I write about them I sit here and cry.

 

[Erika]

I have Nellie's great big stuffed pillow, she used to lay her head on it every night when she went to bed. I picked it up last night, and hugged it, it smells just like Nellie, no way will I ever give that pillow up and I wont wash it either. Her food bowl is still on my counter top with the other food bowls and her collar still hangs in the closet. I need these things around me right now. Joann, surround yourself with Osa's things, it will bring you comfort. :hugs:

I carry Piggyluvs fur in my wallet and have his pic on my dashboard. Instead of singing his song Keeper of the stars to him on our walk I sing it going to work. The sights, the sounds , the smells........they are still with us. We do what we have to. Ok this is weird but Ill tell it anyhow....we had to put piggy on a comforter to get him across the yard to the house, he peed on that comforter,hubby wont let me wash it ,so it sits in the shed. Hubby said it was something we have left of him. It stays that way. Joanna, what ever you have to do to have Osa near do it. The price we pay for loving a newf is deep but having had them made us better people. Only those of us who have lost a luv know. I really think we do need a support sticky this yr. Talking about it helps so much , it sorts things out in a way:hug:

 

[Angela]

I can make a Support Sticky, what shall I call it and which forum do you want it in.
This thread actually I think has been very beneficial to many of us.