LeahO
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So, lovely Easter Dinner with my 6 month old Ben turned sour.
He's a big clumsy thing and my niece (about 3 years old) likes to yell at him and make her chase him. This made me nervous and I would keep telling Ben 'no' (but no one said anything about my niece and usually people think I have too much attention on the pup). So, of course, he knocks her down having great fun with the screaming rolly-polly and thinks we're still playing when she's scared.
Suddenly, the room erupts. Grandpa springs from his chair and starts hitting Ben, yanking him up by the collar and "submitting" him roughly. Brother in law races over saying "He bit her!"
Ben ran away once let up out of his submission. (and of course didn't bite her, nor did he ever nip at her as claimed afterward - he licks everything) At present we're back home and he's laying in the kitchen away from me, which he never does.
Here he's disciplined with "Time Outs" which are pretty traumatic for him as he has to be alone in a dark room away from me and interesting things. This is followed by an "I'm sorry" lick and sulking for 20-30 minutes. He also knows what this word means and that it spells trouble if he keeps doing whatever he's doing. I don't hit him or knock him down.
Most people I know think I'm an idiot and that a dog needs to be smacked.
This isn't the first time he's been hit by a stranger. My father in law (other side) didn't like him barking at him so he yelled at him to stop barking in an elaborate sentence. Genius. What exactly does he think a puppy interprets that as? 'You bark too?? Let's play then!!' This ended in a swift couple of swats and me feeling like "wait, did you just hit my kid... ur dog?"
Ben knows basic commands, quiet, focus (when I want him to pay attention to what I want), off, etc and wants to please. He has a will, of course, so "come" has been tough for the boy at times. He gets time outs for that lately. I guess if I just punched him, he'd start coming faster.
Anyway. I'm left feeling divided - do I somehow get him totally unexcited about children by supersaturation via letting him go at random school recesses surprising the small task force of unsuspecting recess staff as he bowls for children?
Do I rent-a-kid to run past him daily?
Or perhaps I should just avoid kids all together until he's 3 years old and less excitable.
Since I think of him like my baby, I was unprepared to deal with people hitting him. In the instance when kids and untrusting parents are involved... well, what can you do?
They all were casual about it later and encouraged me to bring the pup over to "socialize him" (with intermittent beatings no doubt), but I don't like my dog cowering under iron fists. I'd much rather have a dog that does what I say because he hates to disappoint me. In this case, he's simply learning and a stern time out would have given him more of a lesson than panic against rage. I doubt he knows what happened. He's not aggressive or rough - just large and unaware of his body.
Kids and clumsy Newfoundland pups - what say you?
I now realize that I'll have to sternly tell people how to treat my dog, but in the instance that a child is involved, scared people take priority over any dog.
What a craptastic incident.
LeahO
He's a big clumsy thing and my niece (about 3 years old) likes to yell at him and make her chase him. This made me nervous and I would keep telling Ben 'no' (but no one said anything about my niece and usually people think I have too much attention on the pup). So, of course, he knocks her down having great fun with the screaming rolly-polly and thinks we're still playing when she's scared.
Suddenly, the room erupts. Grandpa springs from his chair and starts hitting Ben, yanking him up by the collar and "submitting" him roughly. Brother in law races over saying "He bit her!"
Ben ran away once let up out of his submission. (and of course didn't bite her, nor did he ever nip at her as claimed afterward - he licks everything) At present we're back home and he's laying in the kitchen away from me, which he never does.
Here he's disciplined with "Time Outs" which are pretty traumatic for him as he has to be alone in a dark room away from me and interesting things. This is followed by an "I'm sorry" lick and sulking for 20-30 minutes. He also knows what this word means and that it spells trouble if he keeps doing whatever he's doing. I don't hit him or knock him down.
Most people I know think I'm an idiot and that a dog needs to be smacked.
This isn't the first time he's been hit by a stranger. My father in law (other side) didn't like him barking at him so he yelled at him to stop barking in an elaborate sentence. Genius. What exactly does he think a puppy interprets that as? 'You bark too?? Let's play then!!' This ended in a swift couple of swats and me feeling like "wait, did you just hit my kid... ur dog?"
Ben knows basic commands, quiet, focus (when I want him to pay attention to what I want), off, etc and wants to please. He has a will, of course, so "come" has been tough for the boy at times. He gets time outs for that lately. I guess if I just punched him, he'd start coming faster.
Anyway. I'm left feeling divided - do I somehow get him totally unexcited about children by supersaturation via letting him go at random school recesses surprising the small task force of unsuspecting recess staff as he bowls for children?
Do I rent-a-kid to run past him daily?
Or perhaps I should just avoid kids all together until he's 3 years old and less excitable.
Since I think of him like my baby, I was unprepared to deal with people hitting him. In the instance when kids and untrusting parents are involved... well, what can you do?
They all were casual about it later and encouraged me to bring the pup over to "socialize him" (with intermittent beatings no doubt), but I don't like my dog cowering under iron fists. I'd much rather have a dog that does what I say because he hates to disappoint me. In this case, he's simply learning and a stern time out would have given him more of a lesson than panic against rage. I doubt he knows what happened. He's not aggressive or rough - just large and unaware of his body.
Kids and clumsy Newfoundland pups - what say you?
I now realize that I'll have to sternly tell people how to treat my dog, but in the instance that a child is involved, scared people take priority over any dog.
What a craptastic incident.
LeahO