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Her Newfs

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All Breed Rescue Bentley

I have been in contact with Bentley's foster home. They are very particular about where he will be placed. He is safe and they are doing a wonderful job with him. I'm hoping his foster mom, will be a foster failure!

Chris
 
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BLCOLE

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Her Newfs said:
I have been in contact with Bentley's foster home. They are very particular about where he will be placed. He is safe and they are doing a wonderful job with him. I'm hoping his foster mom, will be a foster failure!

Chris
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I just checked the website given and Bentley is no longer listed. SOMEBODY snapped him up if he isn't a foster failure as you hope...
 
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RamonaAnne

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Does a foster failure mean that they started out fostering but then decided to adopt the dog for themselves?...
 
BoundlessNewfs

BoundlessNewfs

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It is EASY to become a foster failure (speaking from experience!). Once you bring in a dog, sometimes in rough shape physically and mentally, and see it begin to trust again and blossom, it just breaks your heart to let it leave.

Glad to hear this newf has found a home.
 
KCoppenrath

KCoppenrath

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Honestly, I used to think that way about fostering too. But, I took the leap anyway and what I have gained far exceeds what I have "lost". It is hard to turn your first couple fosters over to their new families. You have nursed them back to health, physically and emotionally; you've loved them like they were your own. And, you have to let them go. You cry a little and call and check on how they are doing a little too often, but you get thru it.

Then the magic thing happens... You are at a Newf Club event or a Rescue event and there they are happy, healthy, and with a "forever family" that is TOTALLY devoted to them. And you can see that the dog is exactly where they belong. Once the dog recognizes you and gets all happy and wiggly as if to thank you for being a respite between where they are and where they were, you will tear up and your heart will be full of joy and a little pride. That feeling is why those of us who foster regularly are able to let them go without being brokenhearted.

Kim
NCNE Rescue Co-chair
rescue@newfclubne.org 888-831-4873

PS - Every Rescue group in the universe needs more available foster families. If you think you could help... volunteer.
 
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Crosslake25

Crosslake25

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KCoppenrath said:
Honestly, I used to think that way about fostering too. But, I took the leap anyway and what I have gained far exceeds what I have "lost". It is hard to turn your first couple fosters over to their new families. You have nursed them back to health, physically and emotionally; you've loved them like they were your own. And, you have to let them go. You cry a little and call and check on how they are doing a little too often, but you get thru it.

Then the magic thing happens... You are at a Newf Club event or a Rescue event and there they are happy, healthy, and with a "forever family" that is TOTALLY devoted to them. And you can see that the dog is exactly where they belong. Once the dog recognizes you and gets all happy and wiggly as if to thank you for being a respite between where they are and where they were, you will tear up and your heart will be full of joy and a little pride. That feeling is why those of us who foster regularly are able to let them go without being brokenhearted.

Kim
NCNE Rescue Co-chair
rescue@newfclubne.org 888-831-4873

PS - Every Rescue group in the universe needs more available foster families. If you think you could help... volunteer.
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I am trying to convince my hubby that we should foster, and he is so reluctant.

The issue is that he gets so attached to his dogs -- he doesn't think he could bear to foster and then send a dog to another family, however devoted and wonderful. I think he's concerned that it will feel the same as his experience when a dog crosses the bridge.

In your experience, is the feeling at all the same? I would love to be able to reassure him so that he'd be more comfortable fostering.
 
Newfobsessed

Newfobsessed

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Beautifully phrased Kim, and I am sending a message out that I am available for fostering. My local rescue is not too busy...now that I've said that, we will be overwhelmed....
I've fostered many times and have cried when most have left me for their forever homes, but it was really selfishness on my part. Those dogs I was fortunate enough to see after I let them go, were very happy, healthy and spoiled. I have even baby sat a few, which thrilled me and my babies. I get pictures of them often too! So quite often, you never really lose them completely. It is definitely a win/win situation. You get to save a life, and usually that life teaches you a thing or two while you are together.
 
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BlackLightning

BlackLightning

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Crosslake25 said:
I am trying to convince my hubby that we should foster, and he is so reluctant.

The issue is that he gets so attached to his dogs -- he doesn't think he could bear to foster and then send a dog to another family, however devoted and wonderful. I think he's concerned that it will feel the same as his experience when a dog crosses the bridge.

In your experience, is the feeling at all the same? I would love to be able to reassure him so that he'd be more comfortable fostering.
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It is likely different for everyone. I know a lot of our fosters find great joy in helping many dogs in need. Unfortunately, you have to let them move onto their forever homes in order to help more dogs in need. I think knowing they are helping multiple dogs helps them say goodbye to their fosters. We are always looking for great foster homes!
 
KCoppenrath

KCoppenrath

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Crosslake25 said:
I am trying to convince my hubby that we should foster, and he is so reluctant.

The issue is that he gets so attached to his dogs -- he doesn't think he could bear to foster and then send a dog to another family, however devoted and wonderful. I think he's concerned that it will feel the same as his experience when a dog crosses the bridge.

In your experience, is the feeling at all the same? I would love to be able to reassure him so that he'd be more comfortable fostering.
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For me, it isn't remotely the same. I sort of think of it as babysitting someone else's dog for a while. You enjoy them. You love them. You "fix" them as best you can. And then it's time, for them to go on to their real home. I don't ever think of them as "mine". Are some of them hard to see go? Absolutely. But at the same time, some dogs can't get out of my house fast enough.
 
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Carlina

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I have my first foster going to his new home this weekend, You tell yourself this is not your dog but still I think I will be upset when he goes. He has been a joy and I have had him for a month so now he must go his forever family. Just as one goes another one comes in. I sure will miss him.
 
NewfLove

NewfLove

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KCoppenrath said:
Honestly, I used to think that way about fostering too. But, I took the leap anyway and what I have gained far exceeds what I have "lost". It is hard to turn your first couple fosters over to their new families. You have nursed them back to health, physically and emotionally; you've loved them like they were your own. And, you have to let them go. You cry a little and call and check on how they are doing a little too often, but you get thru it.

Then the magic thing happens... You are at a Newf Club event or a Rescue event and there they are happy, healthy, and with a "forever family" that is TOTALLY devoted to them. And you can see that the dog is exactly where they belong. Once the dog recognizes you and gets all happy and wiggly as if to thank you for being a respite between where they are and where they were, you will tear up and your heart will be full of joy and a little pride. That feeling is why those of us who foster regularly are able to let them go without being brokenhearted.

Kim

NCNE Rescue Co-chair
rescue@newfclubne.org 888-831-4873

PS - Every Rescue group in the universe needs more available foster families. If you think you could help... volunteer.
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:hugs:
 
KCoppenrath

KCoppenrath

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Carlina said:
I have my first foster going to his new home this weekend, You tell yourself this is not your dog but still I think I will be upset when he goes. He has been a joy and I have had him for a month so now he must go his forever family. Just as one goes another one comes in. I sure will miss him.
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The first few times are the hardest. You will feel the loss and it will be upsetting for a while. At first, I cried every time one of them went to their new families and I still get a little teary as some of them drive away. It gets easier. I promise that sooner or later you will have the magical moments I describe. Know that you are giving a deserving family the opportunity for the happiness we all know so well -- loving and being loved by a Newfoundland.

This is no small gift.

Hugs,
Kim
 
Tula

Tula

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It definitely gets easier. I especially love all the updates and pictures I receive. Kim
 
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BLCOLE

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Newfobsessed said:
Beautifully phrased Kim, and I am sending a message out that I am available for fostering. My local rescue is not too busy...now that I've said that, we will be overwhelmed....
I've fostered many times and have cried when most have left me for their forever homes, but it was really selfishness on my part. Those dogs I was fortunate enough to see after I let them go, were very happy, healthy and spoiled. I have even baby sat a few, which thrilled me and my babies. I get pictures of them often too! So quite often, you never really lose them completely. It is definitely a win/win situation. You get to save a life, and usually that life teaches you a thing or two while you are together.
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It is my understanding that, as of November 1, that 47 Newfs went through our "local rescue" in 2010. This makes me proud on a variety of levels. One of which is that we are well enough organized that this number of dogs goes through our rescue without panic setting in with everybody involved. :D
 
newflizzie

newflizzie

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I haven't fostered newfs - but spent many years fostering another breed. The very first one I had for months - she was repeatedly bred and mistreated at a puppy mill and had heartworm. I had very little experience in the breed but no one could take her and I couldn't let her be put down. I was in Texas and found her a wonderful home in Ohio but I was so attached to her that I didn't trust the transport relay (completely hypocritical since I was one of the people to help set up the whole rescue organization and knew the least about the breed) so I made my husband help me drive her all the way to Ohio ourselves. :) Anyway, she lived a long and healthy life despite my broken heart.

After that though, I realized that I could love and heal, but they were better off in their new forever home - the one I picked out just to fit their particular personality and needs. I had my own pack, and though they would be fine with us forever - they would be their BEST in the home I picked for them. And that let me let them go with a sense of peace. Some I had close to a year some just a week, but I remember them all and though I don't do it any longer (at least till my kids are older) I don't regret one second of it. I loved seeing them thrive, be spoiled and just plain old happy in their forever homes, and I always felt very grateful I had the opportunity to help them get there.
 
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