sarnewfie
New member
i just wanted to share. I have not been here a while due to circumstances that have left me wiped out and shaking my head. My husband of 9 1.2 years asked me for a divorce on nov 3 this last year. all of a sudden out of the blue. took me by surprise.
i suspected all along he was not "normal" but placed that on him being a cop.
I made excuses for his behavior which was not normal behavior for a normal person. there is a lot of mental disorder that i wont get into, but, the abuse i put up with from him was unbelievable and i just made excuses for him that it was his job, the pressures of the work he did.
Having talked to many of my close friends they told me they saw the noose around my neck getting tighter and tighter.
he took everything from me. friends, everything.
he has not been staying at the house, he is staying from one friend to another, and is showering at work. he has done this going on close to 3 weeks now.
i felt pity for him becouse i know his "reality" is not yours or mine.
he is not living in "reality"
he blames me for the unfinished house for 7 years, he blames me for everything! yes i am to blame for some things, but i was working on myself and trying hard to be a better person, NOT RUNNING AWAY FROM IT ALL LIKE A COWARD.
he is a scared little boy and the biggest coward i know.
My friends have been a godsend, thank you all, you know who you are!!!
he wanted me to go pro say, or however you spell that.
uhhhhhhh do you think i am stupid?????
no way, my mom stepped up to the plate and got me the best atty in our town, i am lawyered up.
we are being civil to each other, he is being responsible and paying the bills and helping me with gas and groceries.
i pray that i get the job at the hospital transcribing, and then the job i presently transcribe for has 5 vets on board out of 40, i pray that even that, if all 40 hopped on board i would work out of the home full time transcribing v et reports! how cool is that?
that all takes time though, after going thru my father dying and going to school graduating and then7 days into my new job being told he wants a divorce and the harrassment and abuse in between dont tell me that it will make me stronger dang it.
i dont know what else can be thrown in my path to make me stronger.
i am sick of the stress, it has been such a huge struggle.
i hope that some good will come of this and soon.
The people that have been there for me are what keep me going, you all know who you are
I thank you for being there for me.....
i suspected all along he was not "normal" but placed that on him being a cop.
I made excuses for his behavior which was not normal behavior for a normal person. there is a lot of mental disorder that i wont get into, but, the abuse i put up with from him was unbelievable and i just made excuses for him that it was his job, the pressures of the work he did.
Having talked to many of my close friends they told me they saw the noose around my neck getting tighter and tighter.
he took everything from me. friends, everything.
he has not been staying at the house, he is staying from one friend to another, and is showering at work. he has done this going on close to 3 weeks now.
i felt pity for him becouse i know his "reality" is not yours or mine.
he is not living in "reality"
he blames me for the unfinished house for 7 years, he blames me for everything! yes i am to blame for some things, but i was working on myself and trying hard to be a better person, NOT RUNNING AWAY FROM IT ALL LIKE A COWARD.
he is a scared little boy and the biggest coward i know.
My friends have been a godsend, thank you all, you know who you are!!!
he wanted me to go pro say, or however you spell that.
uhhhhhhh do you think i am stupid?????
no way, my mom stepped up to the plate and got me the best atty in our town, i am lawyered up.
we are being civil to each other, he is being responsible and paying the bills and helping me with gas and groceries.
i pray that i get the job at the hospital transcribing, and then the job i presently transcribe for has 5 vets on board out of 40, i pray that even that, if all 40 hopped on board i would work out of the home full time transcribing v et reports! how cool is that?
that all takes time though, after going thru my father dying and going to school graduating and then7 days into my new job being told he wants a divorce and the harrassment and abuse in between dont tell me that it will make me stronger dang it.
i dont know what else can be thrown in my path to make me stronger.
i am sick of the stress, it has been such a huge struggle.
i hope that some good will come of this and soon.
The people that have been there for me are what keep me going, you all know who you are
I thank you for being there for me.....
