A little note on my exit of NN

[NewfyChic]

Thank you to those of you who truly helped me when I needed it. You know who you are. Thanks to GAD for letting me be a part of NN if only for awhile, I'll miss some of you and some I won't, I'm sure this is vice-versa also. I have decided not to be a part of Lynch-mobbing any longer and this is MY CHOICE, not that it matters of course but why should I stick around here and be treated like this? Exactly, I shouldn't. I'm not going to ramble on about how I feel or what was said to me publicly and in PM's because it truly doesn't matter any longer. All I know is it is wrong. So much for diversity. Have fun, kiss your Newfs and Meeka and I bid you guys a fairwell.

[ 07-14-2005, 12:18 PM: Message edited by: NewfyChic ]

 

[Annie Milliron]

Whitney,

If you're reading this, please send me a PM. If someone is sending you nasty, harassing private messages, they need to be forwarded to GAD as this is against NN rules.

I'm sorry that you feel the need to leave.

Annie

 

[Ivoryudx]

Whitney,

I really don't know what to say, I don't know whats been going on. Not everyone here, feels the same about what one or two, maybe even three or four people say. We all have differing opinions and viewpoints, sometimes its the most vocal ones who get the most attention, and that isn't always the majority opinion.

Susan

 

[KS Newf]

Whitney, I wish you didn't need to feel the need to go. I haven't been around long and am only a very minor participant, but I enjoy you, and Meeka and all you contribute. If we all don't agree all the time, that's to be expected. If anyone disrespects a member or insinuates they do not love and care for animals or people, that is very inappropriate. By bowing out of the fun, learning, mutual support and sharing, that, in my opinion, dignifies what must be inappropriate unkindness. We can always agree to disagree. That's okay! I truly feel all here love animals and love humanity. I hate to lose anyone, and I hope you rethink this. We would miss you a lot. Sincerely, Cathy & Gloria Newf
PS Valerie, I would really miss your input too!!

[ 07-15-2005, 07:22 PM: Message edited by: mml ]

 

[luvxl k 9]

Okay Whitney, you made Beau cry!

If he has red eyes this weekend at the show it is all your fault! Seriously though, you shouldn't have to leave something you love because of a few

's. Do as Annie says and forward any inappropriate P'm's or posts to GAD! This is important not only for you but for all of us so that we can all continue to enjoy NN as GAD means for it to be!!

 

[johnwest53]

I agree with Allen and Karen's sentiment - Individuals can not drive folks away from the NN as GAD has most generously intended - Hope you reconsider as we are all diminished by the loss of one.

 

[AngusMcDubhsMom]

We'll miss you and Meeka. Please reconsider? DOn't let some meanies drive you away. If they can do it to one, then who's next? Let GAD handle it? We don't all want you to go. please???

 

[newfmalcolmlover]

I too agree with Annie and Karen. Don't let others chase you away. We'll miss you.

 

[bo'smom]

Originally posted by newfmalcolmlover:
I too agree with Annie and Karen. Don't let others chase you away. We'll miss you.

Add me to that agreement. Hang in there Whitney & don't leave. Forward those pm's to GAD, so he can help sort this out. You have more friends here than you may realize.

 

[Largo]

Whitney I hope you rethink your decision and stick around.

 

[sarnewfie]

Whitney
you and i have not seen eye to eye on a few occasions, but you might want to overlook that for a minute.
think about what you have learned for meeka.
there is a lot of good info on this board.
My belief is this.
no one can MAKE anyone leave a community, they leave of their OWN choosing.
broad shoulders go a long way, and learning from mistakes and ignoring the ones who dont like you go a long way.
choose to stay and ignore the ones who dont care for you, or choose to leave and ditch the whole community.
either way, it is your choice to make.
meeka is a sweetheart

 

[Jeannie]

All I can say is "don't go".

 

[2newfs4now]

From someone who does more lurking than posting, please stay...you and Ms.Meeka would be missed

 

[amyk]

Oh no!! I had so much fun with you and Taylor and Meeka at the get together! I was hoping to see you there next time! And Christine is right, think of all the invaluable information you've gotten off this board. I know I couldn't live without it! Sometimes conversations on the message boards get a little out of hand, but my feeling is just take from it what you need, and ignore the b.s. People say things that they'd never say in real life, my feeling is just concentrate on the nice people, the mean people have enough anger in their heart that they're punishing themselves, so I don't need to say a word. There are plenty of people here that would be sad to see you go! Please reconsider!

 

[newfvo]

People make mistakes. Everyone does. It is how we handle the aftermath of a mistake that makes the difference. If we learn from them, apologize and move on no one can expect anymore. It takes a strong person to stick around after an upheavel. I think you have it in you to stick around here Whitney.

 

[Varmint]

Whitney -

As you know, I may be following you. I think what many people who responded to this are not understanding is that the PM's isn't the only reason why you feel this way. Public lynching for an honest mistake is something that should not be tolerated, however it was tolerated for a short time on this board.

I have decided to take some time and seriously think about leaving. This board does have alot to offer. Consider lurking for awhile and see what happens.

 

[Newfs Forever]

This is such a wonderful board for all of us newfie lovers.

Where will you be able to go??

Who will understand and give you advice, condolences, hugs and kisses.
Do you prefer to go to the N/L?

Just a thought.

 

[Annie Milliron]

I think it's safe to say that people who post regularly here are at times victims of unpleasant or harassing pm's. We're all part of a community and each community has it's own set of problems. Members of a community are not always going to get along, they're not always going to agree. It's unfortunate, but a reality, none the less.

This particular community has come together because of a common bond: our love for newfs. All the other crap should be secondary, and fade with time.

I hope you'll find it in your heart to stay Whitney.

 

[Giddyuppy]

Whitney....
It kinda sounds as tho you've slipped thru the knot of that "rope". Good for YOU! It takes a lot of mature guts, IMO, to finally come clean and admit you're fed up with childishness...and make it PUBLIC instead of "behind the screen". Some people tend to "look down" on folks that have the decency to say "Farewell"...IMO. It's no different than walking out your door at home...if someone is there...it's only common courtesy to say SOMETHING as you leave to go wherever you're going.

We came into this world by the grace of the best true friend anyone could have, and if we leave this world believing that we had even ONE human true friend...that is the bonus of existence. We need to learn to NOT "bow down" to anyone, just so we "fit in". We were put here to keep the friend that created us, NOT to win a popularity contest amongst the humans. Keep in mind...That path is pretty darn narrow! JMNSHO

Ironically, as I was writing this...my Daily Dose of Inspiration came thru my e-mail, here's a part of it...
"Example is not the main thing influencing others--it's the only thing. "

Pop in once in awhile like I do...lurk or make a few posts and watch the visitor count. There's always someone looking for a post from certain people.

 

[NinaA]

I can say that I have no idea what happened. Missed the whole thing, but I can say that this board is very worthwhile. On another board about a year ago we had a blowup that I was in the middle of. I took a vacation from that board and found that I missed it very much. Many of the people had really become friends. I'm sure you feel that way, too. Then I lurked for a while, then I blocked certain people's posts, and then I went back full time. The break did me good, and it's what I would suggest for you.

Nina
et al