TICA update

[Sunny]

reading about so many people getting new puppies lately and all their excitment and joy and reading of the birthing saga has me in tears. On Monday TICA goes to a new home. The lady has had an alpha newf female before and has no other animals. She seems knowlegable and actually wants a stronger willed dog over a passive type. This was arranged by the B.C. Newf rescue. I too was full of joy and love and happiness when she came here and it is so upsetting that she just is not the right newf for this household of animals. I know it is the right thing to do but it doesn't stop the tears. She seems to be fine with the Peke for now but attacked the Himi two days ago. Fortunately I was right there and the cat just lost some fur but no skin. Today I have been washing her toys, sorting out the good ones, writing a list of her likes, dislikes, eating habits etc. Thanks to everyone on this board who gave support and suggestions. I will likely follow this board as I feel like I know some of the families just from keeping up with the posts.
Thanks again.

 

[HPond]

Hi Sunny, Here's a big hug ((((BIG HUG)))).
I know it's has to be sad to have to let go. You're doing the right thing though. I have tears just imagining having to make this decision. Hopefully being the only pet in the house will help TICA's behavior. I really feel for you. Hang around. It's always good here for some tears or a good laugh. Sometimes both at the same time.

[This message has been edited by HPond (edited 02-16-2002).]

 

[Kanela]

Sunny, I know it must be hard for you and you're full of sadness but we are here for you if you ever need to share your thoughts and feelings. And please, please don't let this sour you on Newfies. They truly are exceptional beings and your situation is so singular and uncommon, I hope with all my heart you don't hold this against the breed. If you decide to ever welcome another one into your home, you may be surprised to find that was the one you were always meant to have just as TICA may be the perfect dog for her new home.

Take care and take comfort in knowing you did right by her. I, for one, am grateful she had such a compassionate mama to see to her welfare.

Hugs,
Kanela

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"To err is human.
To forgive, canine."
Newfieland.org

 

[HPond]

Here's a hug for TICA too. ((((TICA HUGS))))

 

[Jeannie]

HI Sunny,
My prayers will be with you during this difficult transisiton. I had a sheltie one time for 2 1/2 years and gave her back to her original owners when I got newfs. (she could not accept having another dog--she was actually making herself sick) I knew this was the best for her. When I went to take her back, I said to myself "I will not CRY" but the tears rolled by the gallons.

I applaud you for being brave and doing what is best for TICA. God Bless You



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Jeannie and the rescues
Sara, Samantha and Panda
www.newfland.com

 

[shawn]

Sunny,
I'm so sorry for you!!

I'm sorry it didn't work out and sorry for your pain. It had to be one of the hardest decisions you have made, but I'm sure it's the best. Hopefully next time things will click and there won't be these kind of problems.

My heart is hurting for you!!

shawn

 

[Spangksb]

Hugs to both of you!! You are doing the right thing even though it is so painful!

You are in our thoughts...



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Sara with Ozzy and Zoe

 

[Maggiesmom]

I know you know what you are doing is the right thing for everyone involved but that doesnt make it any easier. Just know that as time passes the hurt will lessen. I'm sure this lady would keep in touch with you if you asked so you would know how she is doing, etc. Also in time you will find the right Newf for you. He/She will never replace TICA for you but instead fill different places in your heart.

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Shawn....
Maggie, JoJo, Alex, & Destiny too

 

[bridge2itnf@aol.com]

I feel you made the right decision. Dont beat yourself up over it.It wasnt fair to your other pets , all the trama and everything.
Bridget
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Until We Newf Again

 

[HPond]

Sunny, will you be able to keep in touch with TICA? Maybe see her from time to time or get updates? That would be great if you could. Just to be able to see her once in a while or hear how she's doing. It won't make everything less sad, but if you could keep in touch it may help some?

 

[Kodiak]

I agree with Bridget. It was for the best. I think I would want to know how TICA is doing. Hopefully, the new owner will stay in touch. I think it will be much easier for you to know she's OK.

Brenda

 

[stormy]

Oh Sunny, my heart goes out to you. This may be very hard for you right now but I think it is the best for everyone. I have to tell you that I really respect you for looking out for Tica. Not everyone could do what you are doing...that is loving Tica so much that you are willing to let her go to another home. Bless you, for doing something that obviously is so difficult for you. It wouldn't hurt so much if you didn't love her so much!
I have a feeling you will be able to stay in contact with Tica because her new family sounds like they really care as well.

Take care of yourself. Sending big hugs your way.

Carrie

 

[AmyPC]

Sunny,

I know it doesn't make it any better but you are doing the right thing. I can only imagine how hard it is.

And just because you don't have a Newf living with you any more doesn't mean you can be a stranger around here, ok?

 

[Miyax]

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. You're a very strong person. My very best wishes to you, TICA and her new family.

As Amy said, please don't become a stranger around here!

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A tribute to his Newfoundland:
"... beauty without vanity
strength without insolence
courage without ferocity
and all the virtues of man without his vices"
- Lord Byron, 1808

 

[mochaspa]

Sunny,
My heart goes out to you and the difficult decision that you had to make. About 3 years ago, we had to place our keeshond, Bandit, who was our Mocha's best friend. Our girls had just gotten a new kitten, and we were going through the process of socializing the kitten to the dogs and vice versa. Bandit was having a tougher time getting used to having a kitten around. We warned our new petsitter that the dogs and kitten were not successfully socialized to each other, and to keep them apart at all times. Well, while we were away on vacation, the petsitter figured that the kitten would be safe perched on her shoulder, while she let the dogs into the house to feed them. No sooner did she open the slider, when Bandit saw the kitten on her shoulder, and jumped up on the woman. The woman bolted back and the kitten fell off. Bandit grabbed the kitten and rushed back into the yard and into the bushes. The woman panicked and tried to grab the garden hose to hose Bandit off the kitten. In the meantime, Mocha went into the bushes, took the kitten gently into her mouth, and brought her back into the family room, gently laying the kitten's body onto the floor. She then sat down near the kitten's body, and looked up into the woman's eyes with a strange sad look(This was the woman's account). Well, to make a terrible long story even longer('sorry), we made up a more peaceful story to tell our girls, and, when we all had time to swallow all of this, we asked them if they would really want another kitten. Of course, they said yes, and my wife and I decided with great difficulty that Bandit could not stay with us with another kitten on the way. This was one of the hardest decisions that we'd ever had to make...and it broke our hearts. But we knew it was the right thing to do, and Bandit did get placed into a very nice and loving home, with great kids and no cat.

My heart goes out to you...take peace in knowing that you did the right thing...take care.

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Geoff

 

[Nicole]

My heart goes out to you in this very sad time. I'm so sorry that things did not work out but I think that you have done the best thing for you and your newf.