I am SO confused....

[nowhavethreebears]

I don't post much since Sophie and Gabe left me but I do drop in at least a couple of times a week to keep up with everyone.

I am currently lucky enough to be on a very good breeder's list for a nice black boy of champion lineage. I should be over the moon...but I'm not.

She sent me pics of the three boys the other day. One of them would be mine..I was looking at those lovely little faces and was suddenly overcome by a crushing sadness..I thought about my boy Gabriel and started to weep.

The thought of bringing another boy into my home right now is overwhelming...Am I just missing my boy or is this a sign it's not right? Too soon? He's only been gone since Sept. 30.

I have to tell the breeder something soon....I want another newf, but maybe now is not the time? I still have my sweet Hannah....

I am just facing emotions right now that I did not think I would. :shuffle:

 

[lmfoltyn]

I feel your sadness...big hugs...don't know the answer, only you can know when the time is right for you!

 

[Brandie&Maggie]

I can only imagine how hard it must be. Only you can know when the time is right. For what its worth, I don't think sadness at remembering your Gabriel is a sign that it is not right. Just a sign that you love him and miss him greatly.

Can you meet the little guys? Maybe that would help you decide. I can just picture you falling totally in love with one special charming boy who is meant for you.

Or maybe you don't, and they are all just adorable lovely pups...for someone else. Either way, I would think you'll know. There is no right answer. A new pup will not replace Gabriel or Sophie, but may help heal your heart and give you someone new to love.

 

[dreamchaser456]

I don't necessarily think that your sadness over losing your boy when seeing a picture of pups means the time isn't right but only you know for sure. If it's possible to meet the pups before committing fully I would suggest that also. Each of us takes different lengths of time for grief and deal with it different ways... some get another pet right away, others need time. I have always known it was time for a new pet when I wasn't constantly grieving and could remember the best things about the one I lost, then I knew I could fairly love a new best friend without trying to "make" them into the one now gone.

 

[ElvisTheNewf]

It's not disloyal to Gabe to want another newf and be thinking about bringing a puppy home. Please do not feel guilty for that. However, only you will know what puppy is going to be THAT puppy. Maybe it's not one of these three. I honestly think that when you see your next newf, you'll know. He'll jump out at you and into your heart so fast you won't know what happened. Don't make any decisions tonight or based on what you read here - it has to be your decision.

 

[Sound Bay Newfs]

I know exactly how you feel and am going through much the same after losing Sage last month. But seeing and holding a new pup, finds a special place in a heart and a new set of emotions. Can you go visit the pups?

 

[victoria1140]

Don't think of it as a replacement its an alternative.

No newf since Beau has quite held that one in a million spot but l have loved them all just the same. I used to feel guilty that I didn't love Max as much as Beau but he was still special to me.every furkid l have holds a place in my heart some bigger than others but having a puppy or two helps with the grief and they all have their own little quirks.

Go see the litter and see if one talks to you.l knew l wanted Luna from the minute l saw her,just had to persuade the oh to get girls this time and then once he had Raven was an easy additional choice.

 

[wrknnwf]

I completely understand your confusion. I still miss and think about Hugo every day. I long to have him back again and it's been well over a year since he's been gone. And now I have Piper to mourn.

I was convinced that when Piper died that I could not have another dog of my own. It hurts too much to lose them. I just wanted to foster dogs.

But then Spirit came into my life. I didn't think I could love another dog again, but I was wrong. Now that Piper is gone (just a week and a half ago), I'm so grateful to have him here. We are still in the bonding stage and getting to know one another, so it's different than having a dog who knows me well and whom I know. But it's a good feeling. Not at all like I am trying to replace one of my other dogs. I do weep for the others, but Spirit brings me joy in his own way.

I think everyone who says you should go see the litter is right. That's when you will know for sure.

 

[nowhavethreebears]

I have contacted the breeder and asked to be removed from the waiting list. I just can't do this right now. Hopefully one day I will get the landseer girl I have wanted for so long..........

 

[R Taft]

I know what you are feeling, it is how i felt when i got Abbey, just after jessie died. My Hubby got me another newfie form the same breeder..........BUT..........the newf puppy changed our household and we were able to laugh again, she was so funny after all the sadness. But if it is a landseer you want , i would wait till you get that girl. I have just been offersd a boy puppy, becuase A very genrous person does want me to to train this boy puppy, I was torn too, but only for a momant. i am not ready to let Yussie go, i am not really wanting a boy in the future. And i will wait for a similar lineage to Yussie if I can have a puppy..........I felt bad refusing such a gift as it was a gift. and I am not sure if i have offended the person who was giving me this puppy. you must follow your heart. And if it does no feel right it most likely is not.........it is a tough road after these glorious dogs pass. But i will alwasy have another puppy. not to take my previous dogs place, but to make anothe place. I cannot imagine life with out training my puppies, i love my rescues, but what I get with puppies is another gift.........I hope you will find another place in your heart for a newf puppy

 

[BLCOLE]

don't think of it as a replacement its an alternative.

No newf since beau has quite held that one in a million spot but l have loved them all just the same. I used to feel guilty that i didn't love max as much as beau but he was still special to me.every furkid l have holds a place in my heart some bigger than others but having a puppy or two helps with the grief and they all have their own little quirks.

+1 this.

 

[Newfs Forever]

When I lost one of my newfs, I waited 2 years before acquiring another dog. When I lost my last newf, I waited 6 months before getting Sam.

I guess my point is, is that your gut and your heart will tell you when you are ready.

Good luck.

Keep us posted, please.

 

[Angela]

You will know when you are ready. When I lost my first Lab I waited 8 years till Sophie came.

 

[DAWNMERIE]

Anita, it took me close to 15/20 years to love like this again....I will tell you I waited way to long. But sometimes the hole takes a while to heal. I'm hoping and praying that when our time comes I can handle the grief and pain like an adult but somehow I get this awful sinking feeling that it will hurt even more When you are ready, you will know it and the joy and love that comes from it will be sooooooo worth the wait.

 

[jolliz]

It took me six years to get another Newf after I lost my first one Mudge. We couldn't speak of Newfs for a long, long time.

When we lost our yellow Lab Abby in March 2012, it took about six months before we rescued another dog. Abby came here only two months after I lost my first Lab Winnie. I couldn't stand the empty house.

They are all different, sometimes you are ready immediately for another dog and sometimes not. Who knows why.

Respect the way you feel, every situation is different.

 

[skoorka]

When you are ready, you are ready. You will never replace your boy, but you will open your heart to another when it has healed enough. (((HUGS))))